One of the biggest causes of people failing to accomplish their goals and feel successful is a lack of clarity. While we might have a general idea about a goal or direction we want to take in our life, we are often unclear about the specifics. Think about a photograph. In order to be clear, the camera lens needs to be in focus. When the lens is out of focus, the picture will turn out blurry and indistinct. How many times have you taken a photograph and been disappointed by the result once you realized that the focus was off? Faces or objects are blurred, maybe even unrecognizable. You quickly delete and discard it because it was a poor quality picture that did not meet the ideal you had in mind when you took it. You might scratch it up to experience and try again. Maybe you blame it on the camera itself. Ultimately, the quality of the "pictures" that show up in the reality of your life are also largely due to proper focus. First, the idea must be clearly held in mind. The result you desire to manifest in your life must be clearly and distinctly created in your imagination. It must be ‘in focus’ with the components clearly defined, seen, and envisioned. Second, as you go about the process of ‘doing’ what is necessary to effectuate the picture, you must remain focused on your goal and not allow yourself to get distracted by what is going on in the world around you. I know this seems very basic and simple in nature. And, it is. But, ask someone to describe what they truly desire in their life and most of the time, you will not be able to get a clear description from them. Perhaps they can offer some generalizations. But, people rarely offer clear specifics. They lack the clarity to bring their biggest dreams and desires into fruition. Can you relate? Another thing individuals who lack clarity often do is simply share what they *don't* want. Here is an example: Them: "I want health, wealth and happiness" Me: "So what does health mean to you?" Them: "Well, you know, to not be sick." Me: "So what does wealth mean to you?" Them: "To not be lacking." In this example, and I am sure you can think of many others, the picture is unclear and the individual is focused on what is not in it, instead of what is in it. The trouble with focusing on not being unwell is that you are still focusing on un-wellness, not wellness. The focus is on lack and limitation and not on abundance and potentiality. Most people seem to know what they do NOT want. And, getting crystal clear on what you don't want can be an excellent first step on the path to seeking clarity. But, too many people stop right there. Ultimately, you get the picture you have focused on.
How clear and exact are your ideals? How much desire, longing, and passion is attached to them? Are they attached to a bigger "why"? How focused is the image in your mind? And, is that image focused on what you WANT to bring about rather than what you don't want? Gain clarity on these questions and watch your life unfold.
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I hear it all of the time from the awesome clients I work with: "I already know what I want to accomplish. So is goal setting actually important?" My answer is always the same: 10000% YES! Today I am going to explain why it's absolutely critical that you establish goals for yourself if you want to create a life you love. Let's start with what goals do. Goals:
While there's nothing wrong with some occasional spontaneity, and it may seem like fun to live without direction in the short-term, in the long-term we are wired to crave a purpose and direction. Goals provide a sense of direction and purpose to our life. It can be easy (or sometimes even expected) to let others set our direction for us. For example, how many times have you heard one of the following (maybe you have even experienced one of these yourself)?
The simple truth is that if we do not set our own goals then we will find it too easy to follow a path set by others. This can lead to stress and unhappiness. We have a greater chance of happiness and fulfillment following our own path and pursuing our own goals. While goals certainly give our lives direction, they also provide the motivation to get us through the inevitable difficult times and choices that we will experience throughout our lives. Goals also serve as the destination for what we really want out of life. For some people, goals are measured in money or material goods, while for others goals are measured in time or freedom. Some goals may include business growth, books read, places traveled, inches lost or muscle gained. The possibilities are truly endless. But, if we do not have goals outlined that suit our unique perspective on life it is easy to become sidetracked by life and others. Goals can also help save time. When your "To Do" list becomes too long and your calendar too full, then you can simply compare your goals to the list. What items help you achieve your goal? What items are necessary to your goal? Scratch off the rest as unimportant or to be left for a later time. Just as goals save time they also reduce stress because using your goals to focus your life and choices makes it easier to make those choices. Should you take that new position at work? Is it in alignment with your goals? When making decisions each day -- both the big ones and the every-day ones -- this is a simple question to ask: "Is _____ in alignment with my goals?" Finally, goals give you a measurable sense of accomplishment. Every goal you achieve -- in fact
every step you make toward that goal -- can give you a boost of energy and momentum to keep going. Each success powers you toward the next level of success. If you were on the fence or unsure before, I hope you can now see the importance of setting goals in your life. So what are you waiting for?! Get out there and set your goals! alijencikcoaching.lpages.co/four-goal-setting-strategies/If you're not too sure where to start or would like a little assistance in gaining clarity, download the FREE guide: Four Goal Setting Strategies To Create A Life You Love. |
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